It’s funny how you can know someone for years and never really connect, yet with others you meet once and become friends for life from that moment on.
My friend Gemma is one of those ones that I got chatting to one night at a party in my mid 20s and before long we were spending every weekend together; gossiping around The Tan on a Saturday morning, heading out together later that night and meeting up again for a roast of a Sunday afternoon.
I had always admired Gemma from afar; she was one of those girls who seemed to have it all figured out. She was beautifully spoken – a trait she gained from her mother and later honed as a journalist, and always seemed to be so well put together wearing ‘outfits’ rather than just clothes.
Anyway, Gem recently confined in me that she and her hubby were expecting their first bub later in the year, and asked about what baby gear she would need, which got me thinking about the true essentials.
You can actually get away with one tenth of the baby kit that so many of the parenting websites would have you believe you need. Here’s a quick list that I put together for Gem. Every baby is different, so if you find that you need extra kit beyond this list, you can always buy it once the bub arrives.+ A cot. Leander make divine cots that turn into a bed to last a few more years but Ikea makes some equally good ones. Also there’s some great mum Facebook groups where you can pick up a perfectly good second hand cot for a song. Pure Baby also makes lovely organic cotton cot sheets (2 sets is enough).
+ A pram. I think the Baby Jogger City Select is the thinking woman’s pram, the seat can turn so your bub’s never in the sun, the canopy’s great and there’s plenty of room underneath for the shopping. It lasts for years, plus if you put this one on layby then subscribe to the store’s emails you can always return/re-layby it to get the best deal, plus then the store has it until you need it which is great if you have a small home. One tip though is to set it up before the bub arrives, you don’t want an Ikea assembly style argument when you’re both running on just a few hours sleep. Once I’m finished with my pram I intend to donate it to St Kilda Mums – it’s a great charity that helps mums in need get set up before their bub arrives.
+ A car seat. You could get away with going straight to a Britax Safe-n-Sound convertible car seat but for me investing in a Maxi-Cosi capsule was well worth it – just to be able to bring Ol into the house and keep him asleep, or take him to a meeting/coffee with a friend and just pop him under the table still asleep in the capsule, it was a god send and i’ve since lent it out to all of my girlfriends for those first few months.
+ 2 muslin wraps. For swaddling the bub, one to use while the other’s in the wash. Also good to drape over your shoulder if you’re feeding in public, a nice big scarf works well for that too.
+ A pack of terry towelling cloth nappies. These cloths are great to have on hand for random uses – for burp cloths, to change the bub on when you’re out and about, to cover a change mat on your side board etc, very handy.
+ A few zippies/newborn gear. I wouldn’t worry about 0000 size clothes, your bub will grow out of them within a week or so – best to start with 000 and move on from there. People will give you so many baby clothes once the bub arrives, you only need a few sets to begin with, maybe 4-5 outfits.
+ A few pairs of socks. Also good to use as mittens to stop the bub from scratching itself, Seed makes really good ones that don’t come off.
+ A breast pump. A small manual one is fine, I use the Avent pump and it’s great.
+ 2-3 bottles and teats. I like the glass Pidgeon ones, plus a bottle brush, you can get neat little coconut fibre ones from most health food stores these days.
+ Breast pads. Etsy has a great range of handmade wash and wear ones, it’s worth buying a few sets as you use them every day for months.
+ Bonds maternity singlets. These are great for breastfeeding in public as the singlet part means that when you lift your top up you’re not exposing your tummy, plus they’re wire free which is important for feeding. You’ll likely need 3 white and 1 black, maybe more, I wear them every day.
+ A few good books. If you’re up for a good read, here’s a few books that I got a lot out of in terms of working towards a natural birth, getting the bub into a good routine and navigating the first few years of parenting:
+ French Children Don’t Throw Food
+ Birth Skills (plus hire a TENS machine, they’re amazing)
+ The New Contented Little Baby Book
+ A nursing chair. If you don’t already have a high back chair to feed in, I would look at a proper feeding chair, Pottery Barn has good ones. I resisted for as long as I could given the space they take up but after weeks of feeding hunched over in bed/on the couch, I bought one and it was instant relief! Great for resting back in and reading a good book while you feed.
Depending on the season there’s a few more essentials – i.e. a big floppy sunhat for a summer bub, a pack of singlets, plus a couple of knot beanies for a winter bub when you’re out and about – Pure Baby make the cutest ones an they can be resized just by tying the knot a bit further down.
That’s really it, most other things you can make do with what you have on hand, for example you can boil bottles in a big saucepan to sterilise them, you don’t need to buy a steriliser. If in doubt think about what our grandmothers would have needed.. Somehow they survived without a mountain of baby gear.. they never had electronic monitors with video cameras and wifi capabilities … if they wanted to check on their bubs they just opened the door…